Crab thinking

Surely everyone has encountered situations when they shared their plans or undertakings with someone. However, instead of support, they received negativity, devaluation or belittlement of both the plans themselves and themselves. This behavior of others is the crab mentality. It lies in the selfish desire of people to prevent others from achieving what they themselves do not expect or do not fit into their picture of the world. Once, while fishing, psychologist John Rojek noticed how crustaceans behaved in his bucket. One of the crabs was trying to get out, and his comrades in misfortune did not let him do this and pulled him back. Alone, the crab would have no trouble getting out of the bucket, but if he is surrounded by his fellow crabs, then the matter is doomed. This behavior turned out to be typical for people as well. The crab theory describes devaluation, unconstructive criticism and unjustified negativity. In fact, crabs do not try to drag their fellow down out of spite. They also want to get out of each other, but in the end they all slide down. With people, everything is more complicated. Reasons: selfishness, laziness, fear of change, envy, fear of loneliness, complexes, lack of self-confidence. Crab behavior is impulsive. It deprives the other of the opportunity to realize their plans and achieve goals only because it will cause you discomfort. It is very important to understand what exactly became the trigger and caused a negative reaction on your part: fear of loneliness or personal problems. What to do about it? Often, the crab mentality speaks of unresolved internal problems that will have to be solved.

Don't worry if your inner circle is stricken with friends who are categorically against your endeavors. It means you're not on the same path.