When everything is shaking: why do we need stabilization

Psychological text about internal support

We don't want stability. Until it starts shaking.

While everything is fine, stability seems boring. We dream of inspiration, drive, a “new stage,” “new feelings,” changes. But when a real storm comes — dismissal, illness, divorce, moving, war — it suddenly becomes clear: all that is needed is for the rocking to stop.

And then the most important question of all arises: what can I rely on when everything around me gives me no support?

What gives a person a sense of stability?

1. Routine is like a framework for the psyche. It can be irritating in peacetime: a familiar breakfast, the same route, repetitive actions. But in a crisis, it is the rhythm that helps you not to fall apart. Routine is not boredom. It is a ritual of internal containment.
2. Focus on the body. When there is no strength to think, the body can still breathe, move, take a step. Sometimes the best way to "return to yourself" is to wash dishes, slowly peel an orange, wrap yourself in a blanket. Bodily stabilization is the most powerful base in a crisis.
3. Contact with yourself - through pauses. You may not understand what is happening. You may not know what to do. But if you sit down and just breathe for a minute - without deciding anything, you are already returning to yourself an internal point. A pause is also an action.